Pansexual And Queer Are Not Superior to Bisexual

This is not going to be popular, and may even be deemed offensive by some. I am not trying to insult or be incendiary. That said, this is genuinely my opinion.

I think that the common, modern uses of the terms “pansexual” and “queer” are often employed to solve a problem that does not exist: that “bisexual” is too limiting. Some argue that the “bi” in “bisexual” means that a bisexual person can only be attracted to men and to women, not to more fluid dynamics.

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Flogging Class And Affirmations

SwingBot and I finally dragged ourselves to The CSPC on Saturday. We last tried over a year ago, planning to attend a rope bondage course. The drive there was so stressful, followed by our inability to find a parking spot (partially because the place was busy, but partially because we did not know what were legitimate spaces), that we gave up and simply drove back home. That wasted round trip took two to three hours.

With a commute like that, visiting The CSPC is not a light undertaking for people who dislike driving.

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Primary Partnership Risks

This was originally a comment in response to Couple Privilege: Your Thoughts? on SoloPoly.net. If you have not read that post (or the blog in general), then I recommend you do so! The blog overall looks at polyamory from the perspective of someone not in a “primary” relationship, and the post discussed various problems with couple privilege. Since polyamory has traditionally been presented from the perspective of “couple exploring while wanting to protect their existing relationship,” this serves as a real reminder that polyamory is about individuals loving other people, not about couples dictating how a third can best accommodate them.

The post requested reactions to and views on couple privilege. I agree with the original post that couple privilege is an insidious and harmful issue, but feel that there should be some recognition of the risks inherent in being a “primary” partner. The following is my comment on that post.

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