Regrettably, my Sinnflut Reality (by Fun Factory) really should be replaced. It still charges and provides different vibration levels and styles… when I can switch through them. I can still turn on the vibrator, but switching to the next level usually turns it off, and has for well over a year now. Managing to successfully bring the vibrator to the desired setting, rather than switch it off, is random and requires many tries. Fighting with a vibrator does not really encourage a sexy mood for masturbation, and I do not even bother including it for partner play anymore.
Recent articles on Polyamory Weekly and SoloPoly have me thinking about one very important difference between good swinger practices and good polyamory practices: veto power. For a good and safe swinging experience, a couple would do well to employ veto power. In polyamory, though, veto power should be exercised with caution, if at all.